Friend or Foe? Forgive or No?

So here’s the deal: I have been dealing with a “friend” of mine that I don’t feel was really a “friend” in the first place. When we first crossed paths, it was through people at school, and also one of her relatives. So, like I normally do since I am SUCH a friendly person, I tried to establish a bond and friendship with her because I felt that we would be good friends.

BOY, was I wrong! Things started out cool in the beginning, but then she started acting funny with me. You see, I have this guy friend who, because of her, I USED to be close with. Me and him were extremely close and tight knit, but we were JUST FRIENDS. Yet she told one of her family members that I called him a lot (like I always did) and that I wanted to be with him. I was like, “WHAT?!? Really?!?” I was so upset with her because my whole thing was, he didn’t have too much of an issue with it because he knows I like to talk. So that means that it really didn’t phase him until she said something about it. But the other thing is, we had been cool for like 2 ½ years before she met him, so what was she tripping for? And if it bothered her that much, why didn’t she say something to me instead of running off telling everyone else about it and how she felt???

And what makes it so crazy is, the night she met him, he had met up with me, her, another girl, and this girl I know that he was trying to get to know at the time. So we’re at the club having a good time and all, and while he’s dancing with the girl he knew that was with us, she got jealous!!! And I was thinking, “Ok….if I’m not mistaken, which I don’t think I am, she HAS a boyfriend, so WHY is she worried about my homeboy and what he‘s doing with someone he knew before he met her?” I just thought it was stupid, childish, and crazy ALL at the same time. Then I ended up just trying to forgive about the situation, like I’m supposed to, and move on….

So we were good for a few months, and she even ended up getting in another relationship towards the end of last year. So for some reason, her and her boyfriend decided to try and hook me up with his cousin. Now for all my TRUE friends, they know I hate that because I’m all about letting things like that happen naturally because when you try to push it into happening, it does nothing but blow up in your face. So I was hesitant, but I did start conversing with him. So like any other couple that hooks people up, they were asking us how things were going between us and everybody got along well and great.

But THEN comes the first screw-up: I get a text message from her asking me if anyone had claimed my daughter yet on their taxes. Now I knew that my grandmother had, but out of curiosity, I lied and said no. So when I asked her why, instead of answering me, she sends me a text right after my reply asking me if I claimed any money for a job from the previous year. So again I told her no, and when I asked her why she wanted to know, she tells me because her boyfriend was looking for something to claim on his taxes.

Dude….SERIOUSLY?!? And I remember sitting there just thinking, “She did NOT just ask me that for him!!!” Then there was this thing that me and the guy were trying to do on V-Day, but there were transportation issues. So the plan was that I was gonna go to my school to meet up with him so we could go to the play there that I had bought tickets for. But here’s the thing: her boyfriend lied to my guy friend and said that they weren’t going. But then he came out and told the truth that they were, but they wanted to be alone. YET, and still, they went on a double-date that night! I just couldn’t believe it. Then her boyfriend was telling him a few days after that, “I heard ya girl was down there wildin out.” REALLY?!? Cuz I don’t remember doing any “wild” things. The only thing I did was hang out with my friends.

But, all in all, I’m supposed to forgive, forget, and let go. It hasn’t happened yet, but I’m (still) working on it….